I Believe in True Love

I believe True Love exist.
I believe True Love is being Loyal.

“Happily ever after” means that two people find wholeness in each other. The loyalty they feel for one another comes from the fact that, primarily, they exist for each other.

The fairy tales and storybooks that begin, “Once upon a time,” always end, “and they lived happily ever after.” Why did they live happily ever after? Didn't they have arguments? Of course, they did. But “once upon a time” they were loyal to each other. One of the holiest act is to bring peace between a husband and wife.

I believe True Love exist.
I believe True Love is being Loyal.
(December 18, 2016)

A wedding is a start of togetherness, of walks in the rain,
basking in the sunshine, shared meals, caring for one another,
and sensing the love that a marriage carries.
(December 18, 1991)

Each of us needs to experience the pain of halfness in order to get married. Without feeling our own halfness, we aren’t able to let someone else into our lives. We need to feel that we really are half and not whole; and that by remaining alone, we’ll never be whole.

Experiencing our own halfness, tasting it and admitting it, prepares us for marriage. When we are married to another person, we no longer feel like a half; without marriage, the feeling of halfness would be intolerable for most people.

Sometimes wive's had wisely chosen to allow herself to appear foolish, rather than diminish her husband in his eyes. Why? Because marriage is sacred. To do anything that diminishes it, discourages it or dulls it is wrong. To say something discouraging or disparaging about a husband to a wife, about a wife to a husband, is an unpardonable sin.

Marriage is a holy institution, as holy as a congregation at prayer. Because of this, husband and wife are capable of a unique and wondrous unity.

If we walk into a room where people are praying, we acknowledge that something holy is taking place. We wait in reverence, careful not to distract them from their prayers. We should feel a similar reverence in the presence of a husband and wife. Acknowledging the sanctity of marriage, we should be careful not to distract them from each other, or in any way dampen their enthusiasm for each other.

Since marriage is a holy institution, that holiness has to be treated with the respect it deserves. The way to do that is by helping one appreciate the other, certainly not by criticising one to the other.

How should you react when someone criticises your spouse? You’re not supposed to be objective. We used to hear people say, “Well, what do you expect? She’s his wife, so he’ll never see anything wrong with her.” That’s the way you’re supposed to be.

A wife shouldn't have to be superwoman for her husband to feel loyal to her, and a husband shouldn't have to be superman for his wife to feel loyal to him. Loyalty comes from the fact that you realise that this other person is so central to your life that it is this relationship that gives your life meaning.

When you find yourselves on opposite sides of the fence because one of you made a mistake, that’s disloyalty. It’s like getting divorced. Suddenly, you aren't married anymore; you’re wishing you were outside the marriage. This often occurs in ways that are subtle, but real and serious.

It is necessarily for both to keep being loyal inside a relationship, it is very important in Marriage for a husband could give trust to her wife and wife to her husband with confidence.

Bringing peace to a husband and wife means that on every occasion, whenever we have the chance, we should enhance the husband’s opinion of his wife and the wife’s opinion of her husband. Help the husband appreciate his wife, and the wife respects her husband.